Can dating a separated man work
My question: Can I, as a Christian, date someone who is separated, with the divorce proceedings in progress but still not through? By dating now, you will be moving ahead of God's plan and will for your life. HE SAID: Continue to encourage her through your words, love, and actions.SHE SAID: Well, my answer is pretty simple: Is the person married? Is he still married (even though he is separated) and still someone's husband? Include her in your activities, but try not to center on the family or relationship she doesn't have, but rather emphasize those areas where God is allowing her to do things you aren't able to and how she is being used to impact others.
Try not to get caught up in the "terminology" of whether or not you are "dating." You have gone out with her a couple of times, and she is still around.You can share your thoughts, give him an ultimatum, befriend his mother or live with it, but ultimately it is at home. So the man decides that he will care for his mother in his home, and she moves back in (Exodus ; 1 Timothy 5:4-8). If you cannot see yourself ever living with a spouse and his mother, then perhaps you should not ever get married. We never know what life will bring our way or how our circumstances will be changed or not from one day to the next.Let's say, for example, that his mother moved out of the house. Now that this man's sons are grown, perhaps this man is simply looking out for his mother and wants to provide for her in terms of a dwelling, in terms of safety and in terms of companionship.Because of her full calendar I'm always hesitant to call her, but when we do talk we have good conversations.Another female friend of mine says it could take two to three months for her to decide whether or not she actually wants to date. HE SAID: I have to agree with your friend, you don't have to "date" someone to get to know them.Meanwhile, you will still be around but will be observing from a more careful distance, as you step up your internal guard's ground patrol of your heart just a little bit. Then see what God is telling you and showing you about the situation (Proverbs ).
QUESTION: I would like to know what are God's "rules" on women initiating a relationship with a guy.
SHE SAID: Look to the different relationship examples that we have been given in Scripture for clues: Isaac and Rebekah (Genesis 24), Jacob and Rachel (Genesis 29), Boaz and Ruth (Ruth 1).
In each story, the woman was sought after or noticed by or pursued by the man. His mother has moved in ten years ago to help raise his two boys and she hasn't moved out! God has brought him his wife, but confusion about his mom (who's moving in and out) has caused them to break up!
This is the hope that we cling to and all that you or your friend or any of us can do in trying to understand different mystifying situations in each other's lives. I have a female friend the same age who doesn't believe you have to date someone to get to know them.
She believes God will reveal to her the man she's to marry at the right time.
I believe God created man as the initiator and the woman as the responder, but I am having a hard time finding scripture to back that.