Can dating a separated man work
You can learn a lot about a person by being around, listening, observing and seeing how they interact in different situations.Try not to get caught up in the "terminology" of whether or not you are "dating." You have gone out with her a couple of times, and she is still around.
In each story, the woman was sought after or noticed by or pursued by the man. His mother has moved in ten years ago to help raise his two boys and she hasn't moved out! God has brought him his wife, but confusion about his mom (who's moving in and out) has caused them to break up!You walk with them through their sadness and suffering, pointing them to the Father and toward his timing and plans for all of our lives.We don't always understand his higher ways, but we good (Romans ).No one can provide it nor does it come in his or her life—no matter the time period.You listen, you offer a shoulder to cry on, you pray with and for them (Galatians 6:2).My question: Can I, as a Christian, date someone who is separated, with the divorce proceedings in progress but still not through? By dating now, you will be moving ahead of God's plan and will for your life. HE SAID: Continue to encourage her through your words, love, and actions.
SHE SAID: Well, my answer is pretty simple: Is the person married? Is he still married (even though he is separated) and still someone's husband? Include her in your activities, but try not to center on the family or relationship she doesn't have, but rather emphasize those areas where God is allowing her to do things you aren't able to and how she is being used to impact others.
Because of her full calendar I'm always hesitant to call her, but when we do talk we have good conversations.
Another female friend of mine says it could take two to three months for her to decide whether or not she actually wants to date. HE SAID: I have to agree with your friend, you don't have to "date" someone to get to know them.
However, the example of Boaz and Ruth has a unique twist related to that time period and the culture. How do you date a 45-year-old man with his mom living at home?
Naomi instructed Ruth to request that Boaz act as her kinsman-redeemer, but it was Ruth's right to do so according to levirate law (if a woman's husband died, his next of kin was to take her as his wife and protect her). HE SAID: Unless strict boundaries were pre-determined, by allowing his mother to move into his house, this man has empowered her to continue the mothering process not only to his now grown boys, but also to himself, and you will be probably always be looked upon as the reason she is being asked to leave. A year later, his mother (now she's your mother-in-law) has an accident and cannot live alone any longer.
SHE SAID: Okay, well personal definitions of "dating" and other mixed messages aside, what is the standing of your heart at this point in the "friends stage"? However, it sounds like you might be concerned that she is not as interested in you as you are in her—or you might not have sent in your question for us to answer.