Chronic fatigue syndrome dating
Kaylyn needed to see firsthand what it’s like to date someone with postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS).
My hands were shaking as I gripped the counter, and black spots weaved in and out of my vision.Where before I’d revealed my POTS to potential partners with trepidation, after college I started finding a way to bring it into the conversation just to see how they’d react.Most of the time, whether I mentioned it online or in person, it was essentially that they’d disappear.After coming out, I was eager to explore my attraction to women but quickly realized that I had no clue how to date, let alone find bisexual and lesbian women.I couldn’t just assume that basically every woman I ran into was queer the way I’d assumed pretty much every guy I wanted to date was straight.I was getting ready for my fourth date with Kaylyn, and my stomach was in knots.
It wasn’t the usual predate jitters, like I’d had before our previous outings.
I could potentially faint without warning, forcing them to take care of me.
Sometimes I have to wear ugly monitors hooked up to my heart or head, or use my cane when I’m in a lot of pain, which draws a lot of negative attention. Maybe it wasn’t fair to judge people I’d just met, but I was tired of getting hurt.
I was a sophomore in college, and a friend told me they were bisexual.
That conversation sparked an epiphany: I wasn’t straight either.
The most valuable thing I learned was that I’d meet someone worthwhile when I stopped putting impossible standards on myself by wishing I could magically be completely healthy and started holding others to higher standards.