Dating a divorced mom with kids
This kindness bleeds into your other relationships. Being a single mom means that you have been through at least three life-altering experiences. Forgive the friends and in-laws who you felt deserted you.
This piece is also dedicated to all of the single mothers who will hopefully read this and know they are not alone in their needs and desires. I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely. I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.Some of which, I believe, are universal to single mothers in my age bracket.I wrote this piece with the intention of supporting the man interested in a woman with children.Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? People are attracted to these single-mom qualities in a real, meaningful way. Now, I have reached many milestones in my career, relationships, and inner life. Listen: Other ways to listen: i Tunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ Tune In ♦ Sound Cloud ♦ Google Play Nothing breaks my heart more than a woman who cannot be without a man.
My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.
Especially the people you want to attract, aka awesome men. That personality is always rife with desperation, bad decisions and alienating others who love her best. Even if you are not prone to dramatics of partnering up ASAP, you may feel like a loser because you are not in a relationship.
It is normal to feel sad and lonely if you don’t have a boy- or girlfriend.
I've made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks.
I still don't understand the game of love, but I do understand my needs as a woman and mother.
We are connected, interwoven with the lives of our children.