Signs you are dating someone with borderline personality disorder
The deprivation of real nurturing and lack of boundaries make narcissists dependent on others to feed their insatiable need for validation.Like the mythological Narcissus, they don’t know themselves, but only can love themselves as a reflection in the eyes of others. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love.
Narcissism ranges from self-centeredness and some narcissistic traits to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (“NPD”).You’re proud to bask in their glow, but at home, they’re totally different.They may privately denigrate the person they were just entertaining.A grandiose sense of self-importance and exaggerates achievements and talents 2.Dreams of unlimited power, success, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love 3.Sometimes, you might think they love only themselves. Instead, it’s projected outwards in their disdain for and criticism of others. They’re too afraid, because they believe that the truth would be devastating. They’re left with an unrealistic view of themselves, and at time make you experience what it was like having had to feed the needs of a cold, invasive, or unavailable narcissistic parent.
Anne Rice’s vampire Lestat had such an emotionally empty mother, who devotedly bonded with him to survive.
The purpose of this article is to provide an overview of the DSM-5 personality disorders (PDs).
Included herein is a discussion of the paranoid, schizoid, schizotypal, antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, avoidant, dependent, and obsessive–compulsive PDs.
Narcissists have no boundaries and see you as an extension of themselves, requiring that you’re on call to meet their needs – regardless of whether you’re ill or in pain. You might go out of your way to fill their request only to have your efforts devalued because you didn’t read their mind. You end up in a double-blind – damned if you displease them and damned when you do.
Narcissists don’t like to hear “No.” Setting boundaries threatens them.
You begin to wonder if they have an outward “as if” personality. It’s hard to be empathic with narcissists, but they didn’t choose to be that way.